OMG, I've Been Diagnosed With.....

Responses to a diagnosis, whether it is a mental disorder or a physical one can range from great fear to anger to denial.  Most of the time we can't figure out why it has happened and aren't familiar with what it is.

Physical disorders can be very scary.  How many times in your lifetime have you gone to the doctor and heard you just needed an antibiotic, you had the flu or a rash or needed something to help with indigestion?  Then you have an annual physical, a blood test and the doctor calls back saying they need you to come in right away.  You hear you have diabetes or heart disease, high cholesterol or some other frightening disease that you never thought you would hear.  Your mind starts racing, you think, "This can't be happening to me!"  Then, once it sinks in, you start learning everything you can about it, believing that it will be relatively easy to overcome and you'll be back to normal in no time.  However after a short time we come to realize that overcoming 40 or 50 years of bad habits isn't so easy.  Then we get discouraged, then we realize that if we don't make the changes that our life is at stake.  Determination takes over and we begin again.  Sometimes we are successful in finding alternative treatments that work, that are more compatible with our value systems.  If we have caught the disease in time, it may be much more simple to turn around than if we have denied our symptoms and the disease has progressed.

Mental disorders are not the same, although many people are diagnosed with depression, bi-polar disorder or different forms of personality disorders every day, mental disorders come with more of a stigma.  Once the person is diagnosed, although perhaps feeling relieved to know exactly what is going on, they then have to deal with learning about it and how to manage it.  This kind of diagnosis is just as scary, but can come with a distinct weight and path that needs to be walked out individually.  There are support groups for some of the more well known mental issues such as depression and grief, but many of the more severe disorders don't lend themselves to support groups as well.  Usually by the time someone has been diagnosed they have alienated family and friends, finding themselves with little to no support.

As we age, the probability that we are going to hear something like this in our own lives becomes more real.  How will we deal with it?  That too is an individual response.  As much as possible, attitude plays a huge part in whether we are successful in facing a distressing diagnosis or not.  Joy, laughter, love and encouragement are just as essential in the path back to good health as medical science.  Although we may not realize it, unaddressed emotion can effect us mentally as well as physically.  It is my opinion that in the journey of life, the body is the last voice to speak when we continue to ignore our feelings and stuff our emotional responses to the problems we face in life.  Feelings that are ignored don't die, they come up when we are exposed to similar events, people, sights or smells.  If we continue to ignore them, they can develop into fears, social withdrawal, discouragement, depression or eating disorders.  If we let them go long enough, the body becomes endangered.

For example, given enough time, the body will begin to interpret a consistent emotion of anger as a wound.  The normal response to a wound is to release fibrin, the wound clots, scar tissue forms and the wound begins to heal.  So what happens when there is no wound? The body releases that fibrin and it continues to build up and circulate in the blood stream.  Clots can form and the person may be more susceptible to a stroke than s/he would have been if that emotion had been dealt with early on in life.  Additionally, anything we do to turn the body more acidic will leave us more vulnerable to disease.

Cover of Bob Hope

So what can we do?  I don't know about you, but in my opinion laughter and happiness is an easy way to address a part of good self care.  I am old enough to remember some of the comedians of early television like George Burns, Sid Caesar, Bob Hope and others and have observed that these individuals lived well into their 90s, in relatively good health.  Why?  I would suggest that it is because they lived a life where they incorporated humor.  They saw the funny side of life and they were able to laugh at themselves.  If we look into scripture, we find verses that confirm it as well..."a merry heart does good, like medicine, but a broken spirit dries the bones".

Human beings are very complex so understand I am not suggesting that this is the only way to stay healthy.  However, in the long term, it does have its benefits.  My encouragement to you would be to deal with your emotional baggage as soon as possible.  Forgive where you need to, try to find the humor in things and enjoy the life that you have been given.

Kriss Mitchell is a Licensed Professional Counselor in Post Falls, Idaho.  For more information, please visit www.livingwellcc.com or supplements4livingwell.com